You Can Have [Some] Cake and Eat It, Too

Lisa was confused. For a very long time, before she started the program in The Beck Diet Solution, she had tried, as much as possible, to avoid certain foods completely, for example, candy, ice cream, and cookies. She was frankly a little astonished when I suggested that she should allow herself to have one favorite food a day.

Dr. Beck: You know, you’ve gotten really good at following your plan. Can we talk about adding in some of your favorite foods? I think you said you rarely let yourself have candy and ice cream.

Lisa: I thought I should never eat those foods.

Dr. Beck: What’s been your experience in eating them in the past?

Lisa: Well, I never allow myself to have them, but I guess I always slip and end up eating them sometimes, even when I don’t intend to.

Dr. Beck: When you eat them—do you have moderate portions?

Lisa: No, I tend to go hog wild. I never have, say, 5 pieces of licorice. I either have none or half the bag.

Dr. Beck: You know, I don’t think it’s realistic—or necessary—for you to ban these foods altogether.

Lisa: But I’m afraid I’ll go way overboard.

Dr. Beck: What would you think about doing an experiment this week? I think you’re ready. Let’s pick a couple of foods, have you bring a single serving into your house each day, and see what happens.

Lisa: [slowly] Okay….

Dr. Beck: Would you like to try licorice? You can either buy a bag, portion out a single serving, and throw the rest away—even outside the supermarket. Or you could put portions in bags at home and make all but one really inaccessible, for example, at the back of the highest shelf in your apartment.

Lisa: I could try that. I think I’d be okay if I put the bags behind my suitcases high up in the utility closet.

Dr. Beck: Then each day, you take down just one bag. It’s probably best to save the licorice for before bedtime. Then you can look forward to it all day.

Lisa: Okay.

Dr. Beck: So some time in the evening, read your reasons to lose weight and your response cards. Then really enjoy the licorice, eat it slowly, and when you finish, brush your teeth and get in bed, so you’ll be tucked away if you have a craving for more.

Lisa was nervous about doing the experiment but excited that she could actually plan to eat some foods she had forbidden herself. The experiment actually worked quite well. That week, she had licorice three times, a candy bar three times, and ice cream once. She didn’t lose control. She found about half the time  she did want more but was easily able to stop and was proud of herself for stopping. In the future, we’ll work on getting Lisa to having larger quantities of some favorite foods in her kitchen and limiting her self-serving to one moderate portion a day.

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  1. Amy
    Amy says:

    I’ve been using my bonus calories on a 5 oz glass of wine and a Tbsn of semi sweet chocolate, most days. A favorite food I just had that I hadn’t had in YEARS was Key Lime Pie. I enjoyed it SO MUCH and was very pleased that not only didn’t I gain weight from having it, but I was satisfied with one piece on one day.

    I’m not sure of the calories, but I guess about 300 – 400. We received the pie at the office from a happy client. The last few years I didn’t have any. i was afraid it was off limits. Then I had a several day period where I was waking up in the middle of the night, hungry, eating a banana, or a a small bowl of Cheerios and milk. I’m not sure why, because I was eating plenty of protein, vegetables, fiber. The usual filling, lower calorie choices. After a few nights of this, I planned on having a piece of pie the next day.

    Not only didn’t I gain weight, and LOVED the pie slice, but a plateau I was on broke, and I DROPPED weight that week. i was amazed! It’s as if my body was asking me for a reasonable amount of extra calories and I was only too happy to indulge.

    The next day, and day after that, I didn’t have any because I was content and satisfied and felt that enough was enough. But now I know that I can have this once in a while – maybe a few times a year or something..


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