I’m Doing It

My client, Jessica, got off track during the holidays (which is far too easy to do!). When I met with her this week, she told me she was tired of feeling out of control, tired of avoiding the scale, tired of worrying about her clothes fitting, and tired of not feeling good about her eating choices. Her mind and her body were suffering as a result of being off track, and she was done with it! We discussed what steps she would start taking in order to rebuild her resistance muscle. We decided that this week she would concentrate on eating Hand writing out a list.everything slowly and mindfully while sitting down, write down/track everything she eats (but not worry about total calories yet), and give herself credit.

While Jessica wanted to immediately get back to putting a calorie cap on how much she was eating per day (knowing that this is what will help her lose weight again), I reminded her that just doing the things we discussed would be a stretch. When trying to rebuild her resistance muscle, consistency is key. It’s critical to commit to goals that she can actually accomplish and follow through with every day. If we made goals that were too much of a stretch, she likely would be able to do it some days but not every day, and that doesn’t build the resistance muscle.

Jessica said she understood but just wanted to be “doing it” already since she was so motivated. I said to her, “By doing these things this week, you will be ‘doing it.’ ‘Doing it’ doesn’t just mean doing every single thing you ultimately need to do to get back on track and see the scale go down. ‘Doing it’ is also every step that leads you there. You can’t get there without these steps first, so from this moment on you are doing it!” Jessica made a Response Card to remind herself that in doing these things, she absolutely is “doing it.”

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  1. Mary Fieler
    Mary Fieler says:

    I understand how Jessica felt. I am on week three of learning new skills, practicing what seems on the surface something easy to do. On my own without daily accountability I counted learning “about” these skills and then thinking about it for a few days, trying it out, was mastery. Yea – I got this, whats next. Now, however I say to myself, “what were you thinking?”
    If you think about it, what goes into being a great vocalist, or an athlete? I asked myself this question and asked why did I think learning to become a master at controlling my eating should be any different than learning to control the voice or muscles? Well maybe because I was already eating with some control through years of trying this or that, maybe a few new habits stuck to give me confidence until it didn’t. Truthfully, I think I have been in the junior league and just playing when it suits me or is convenient. After 23 years of gain some, loose some, regain it, loose it cycle, I have to admit… I am missing something! While I may have learned enough to get the weight off for a while, even a year or more, one self deceiving comment or an emotional moment- was enough to trap me. Yes, I hate to admit that for next 6 months to a year I would deceive myself. “I know how to do this and I can get back on track tomorrow. It feels good to give myself a break.” All the while, slowly getting further and further off track and stuck to the point of loosing confidence that I can ever get this weight off. My accountability partner asked me- do you have confidence you can do this. I said, “I don’t know I’m gonna have to think about that.”
    I have learned these last three weeks that there is nothing easy about learning the skills to control my eating. I did not understand what it would take to grasp them. It takes commitment, perseverance and practice, practice, practice. This is a life skill that can be learned. It isn’t just a diet. I found myself saying I don’t want to do this followed by what? Yes I do.
    I admit that there is a lot more to it. I am now a student. Practicing what seems insignificant and recognizing it will significantly improve my performance. So, I will learn from the experts and practice, practice, practice. Instead of telling myself I got this when I don’t, I am saying….. Yes. I am doing this!

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