Leave the Struggle at the Store

A big way COVID-19 has changed many people’s lives is that they are grocery shopping far less often than they used to. I was discussing this with my client, Lauren, in session this week. She told me that now that she’s only going to the grocery store about once every week and a half to two weeks (instead of multiple times per week as was her habit in the past), she’s been struggling to figure out how much and what food to buy.cookies in a bowl

She described to me that when she’s at the store, she’s always tempted to buy things that weren’t necessarily going into her shopping cart in the past (like chips and cookies) because she feels a degree of anxiety: “What if I really, really want these things over the next two weeks?” If she wanted to insert cookies into her food plan in the past, she would just go to the store the next day and get them. Now, that’s no longer an option.

I asked Lauren, “What happens when you do end up bringing the chips and cookies home?” She thought about it and described how having those highly tempting foods in her house was really taxing her resistance muscle. Throughout the day, and especially at night, her mind wanders to those foods in her pantry and she has to overcome a craving to go eat some. In short, it was causing her lots and lots of struggle once she brought them home.

Lauren came up with an amazing response to record on a new Response Card: Leave the struggle at the store. She realized that when she gave in to her sabotaging thoughts and brought cookies and chips home, it caused her many minutes and hours of struggle throughout the week, trying to overcome cravings. When she put in the work at the supermarket to overcome her thoughts and not buy those foods, she left the struggle at the store. When they’re not at home, sitting in her pantry, they don’t tempt her.

If you, too, are bringing home foods from the grocery store that are causing you a lot of cravings, consider leaving the struggle at the store! Work on overcoming bringing them home, and you will save yourself so much struggle for the next week.

Don’t Push the Lazy Domino!

As I help my clients navigate this unsettling time, one major topic of discussion has been helping people learn to control their eating (and their lives) in their sudden and new work-from-home lifestyle. Most of my clients work the majority of the time in an office setting, so suddenly being home 24 hours a day is a huge change. I had a session this week with my client, Sarah, who works in software sales and is now working from home. She has been struggling to find a new sense of normalcy now that she doesn’t have to get up every morning, shower, and drive to work. She told me that when her alarm goes off in the morning, she often has the thought, “What does it matter if I stay in bed a little bit longer?” So, I asked Sarah, “Does it matter?”

Sarah thought about it and said that yes, it does matter because when she starts out the day by not getting up at her normal time, it sets off a domino effect that negatively impacts the rest of her day. It means she doesn’t get up in time to eat her healthy breakfast, and sometimes doesn’t end up eating anything until lunch, by which point she’s overly hungry, feeling deprived about not eating breakfast, and often ends up making poor choices. When she doesn’t get up, she also starts work later, which means she works later into the night, which throws off dinner and means she gets to bed way later than she knows she should. Additionally, it decreases the chance that she’ll end up getting some exercise that day (either a walk or run outside, or an exercise video at home), because her timing is all thrown off, which is highly detrimental because exercise is so critical to helping Sarah release stress and boost her mood. In short: Getting up when her alarm goes off matters, and it matters a lot.

Sarah realized that when she ignores her alarm and stays in bed, she’s setting off her “lazy domino,” which then spirals down the rest of her day. When Sarah gets up with her alarm and gets her day started, she sets off a much different, much happier and more productive chain of dominos. Sarah made a Response Card that said, “Don’t be the lazy domino!” as a reminder of exactly why it mattered, even in this uncertain time, to get up and get her day started when her alarm goes off.

Off-Track Mode

Dieters get into “off-track mode” when they get off track, the scale has gone up, and they believe they are helpless in the face of their weight problem.

Eating Without Information

This week I had a session with my client, Lauren. Lauren told me that while she had a good week, one day she ended up going way over her allotted calories.

Stress Eating

A client I worked with a few years ago recently had her second baby and was having trouble getting her eating back under control. Lara told me that during her pregnancy, she let herself eat whatever she wanted and ended up gaining more weight than was healthy. Now at six months postpartum, she’s still struggling to put the skills that we had worked on back in place.

Recommitting

If you’ve gotten off track with your New Year’s resolution, this is exactly what you need to do, too! Stop expecting yourself to do everything and instead figure out what feels completely doable this week. Recommit to it, do it (and give yourself so much credit for doing so!), and then add one or more things next week.

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Holidays

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